Recognizing Bad Fruit Isn’t Judging

So many times when victims of coercive control and abuse try to tell people about what their partners are doing, they are told they shouldn’t judge. Yet, in the same chapter that starts with “Do not judge,” Jesus spent a lot of time talking about false disciples and wolves in sheep’s clothing (7:15-23).

When we judge we are assessing* others based on our opinions and preferences. However, recognizing bad fruit doesn’t require judgment. It’s obvious. The fruit is either good or bad. I’d say when someone curses you again and again or spits in your face and utters hateful words, that is bad fruit. If someone oppresses you, or restricts your freedom to even think or act independently, that’s bad fruit– and God hates it.

Reading further in chapter 7, you will see that many will stand before Him on that final day professing to know Him and He will cast them out, because their actions did not match their profession. It’s a serious thing to claim His name and then treat people with contempt, or to ignore their needs (“I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat Mt. 25:42).

While we are saved by grace through faith alone, that experience should change us, and it should become evident in our actions. Micah 6:8 tells us what God requires of us– “to do justice, to love kindness and to walk humbly with our God.” Those who abuse do the exact opposite. They may get away for it temporarily, but one day they will be called to account, and required to answer the only One worthy to judge. “For we know him who said, “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” and again, “The Lord will judge his people.” It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.” Hebrews 10:30-31.

As survivors that should not make us happy (Pr. 24:17), but we should leave justice to God and release our offenders to Him. If we harbor bitterness and anger we may find ourselves becoming like them. So until He comes, “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you,” (Lk. 6:28) and leave the judgment to Him. 💗 Joy

“With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.” Jame 3:9-12

* The original word used here can also mean to condemn Greek based on our assessment more than facts.

4 thoughts on “Recognizing Bad Fruit Isn’t Judging”

  1. When I think a bitter thought against my abuser, God convicts me the next second. I have walked in bitterness for too long and it is a much sweeter place to trust everything to God. Many verses have helped me. The top two I can think of are 1 Peter 2:23 “Who, when He was reviled, reviled not again; when He suffered, He threatened not; but committed Himself to Him that judgeth righteously:”
    And Psalm 100:3 “Know that the Lord, He is God!
    It is He who made us, and we are His;
    we are His people, and the sheep of His pasture.”
    He tells me that He made me, He put me in the family He did, allowed me to marry the man I did, allowed the abuse (all my afflictions are sifted through His fingers). And since He is my Shepherd, He will lead me and He will make all things right. That may be in eternity, but I will trust and follow my sweet Shepherd. I pray often, “I entrust myself to You, Who judges righteously.”

    Thank you for your blog and ministry. I hope to connect with you soon!

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  2. This convicts me on a deep level. I was in one relationship that was so abusive in every way, that I still fantasize sometimes about beating him into a pulp. It makes me feel powerful because I had so little power in that relationship. I have to work hard to bring scriptures like these to the forefront of my mind and ask God to embed them in my heart so I don’t carry with me bitterness and hatred. Thanks for this article, Joy.

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  3. It’s so easy to misread those verses of Scripture that talking about judging. As you say, there is a place for assessing and distinguishing between good and evil, right and wrong. To stand back and say nothing can lead to harm, and it can allow evil to flourish and increase.

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